All you need is a battlefield?

   How do women decide who they should be with? Is "love" all you need? It IS according to the Beatles, so it must be true, right?
      Woman align themselves with the most horrible of men. Men can beat women, steal from them, abuse their children, cheat on them, commit crimes, have soul-crushing addictions, and women take them back! Why? Most women say it's because they "love" him. So, what is love?
-Is it, "he is so pretty, and he says pretty things to me"? Is that love? -Does she love him because "he NEEDS me", thus fulfilling the measure of her creation?  Read the lyrics to the following song from the musical "Oliver":

As long as he needs me...
I know where I must be.
I'll cling on steadfastly...
As long as he needs me.

As long as life is long...
I'll love him right or wrong,
And somehow, I'll be strong...
As long as he needs me.

If you are lonely
Then you will know...

When someone needs you,
You love them so. ...

Do you love those lyrics? Do they bring a tear to your eye? Yeah, that was Nancy from Oliver singing those words. Right before her lover murders her because she disobeys him.

-Do "I love him because I take care of him", much like a woman loves her baby or her puppy?
-Is it love because of the physical gratification? "I'm lonely, and sometimes (when he can't find someone better) he comes over and we kiss. Betty Everett sang, "How do you know if he loves you so? It's in his kiss!" Do kisses pay the bills?

 -Does she love him because he pays the bills? If he does the aforementioned horrible things, she is selling herself too cheaply.
     If you love someone for the above reasons, it does not necessarily follow that he is a candidate for marriage. I love my brother, but I would not hire him to work for me. I love babies and puppies, but they would not be of much help during a crisis. I love a great massage, but I wouldn't want my massage therapist to raise my children. I love to look at pretty actors, but we all know that 99% are capable of seduction, but not fidelity.  And pretty, well, not only does it not last, but beware what it is masking. Pretty talk is cheap. What is he DOING? What are his actions? Of course he is talking sweetly to YOU! Of course he is doing nice things for YOU! He's trying to win you over! What is he doing for others? What is he doing to prepare for the future? What is he giving back to the world? How does he treat his family? Does he have any friends? How does he treat them?
      Women, ask yourselves these questions:
-Do I trust him?

-If I owned my own business, would I hire him?
-If he was fat and bald, would I still enjoy his company?
-How does he spend his time when I'm not around? Do I worry about it?
-Do you admire and respect him?
-Does he respect you? How can you tell?
-Will he be a good husband?
-Will he be a good father?
-Do you love him, or are you addicted to him?

Here's a great song to describe "love hell,"
aptly named "Love is a Battlefield":

You're making me to go, you're begging me stay
Why do you hurt me so bad?
It would help me to know
Do I stand in your way, or am I the best thing you've had?
Believe me, believe me, I can't tell you why
But I'm trapped by your love, and I'm chained to your side
(blah, blah, blah) 
Love is a battlefield.


Ok, if you're using words like "trapped" and "chained" and oh, "battlefield", IT'S NOT LOVE!!

Man, music is so full of bad advice. A catchy tune is like the devil!